There were people in my class with names like Buzz, Dixie Lay, Champ, Pressley, Willow and Weezy. There were girls who wore Lily skirts and Papagallo shoes and boys who wore khaki pants, collared blue button down shirts and Topsider shoes. There were "Cotillion" dances. There were "debutante" balls. Some of the kids belonged to a country club I could not join (because I'm Jewish), and there was a bathroom at our school that was casually referred to as the "black bathroom." Kentucky was a border state in the Civil War, but I've always thought of it as a place squarely embedded in southern culture.
I didn't know what to expect when I walked into the first party Friday night. A lot of those people had never spoken to me when I was in elementary or high school. I was not part of the cool group or the jock group and was often not included in social events. I had carved my own path, which was often slightly jagged.
I ran into a few old boyfriends. One was sweet Tommy, who had given me a gold plated basketball charm to wear around my neck in fifth grade (this meant we were going steady). He has already lost his wife and a younger brother.
I talked with a few girls who wouldn't have given me the time of day back in high school - now they have been through divorce, illness, loss of parents and even children, and they were as nice as they could be. I shared stories with guys who confessed they wanted to be my boyfriend but were too shy to ask and stories with girls who wished they had been a little more rebellious like me.
These were people I thought wouldn't even remember me. People I thought had never even noticed me back in the day.
Does the playing field get more level as we advance in years? Once we all thought we were immortal; now that we know the truth, does that create a bond between us? Some of the pretty cheerleader types and handsome athletes have kind of faded. Many of the geeky, gangly kids have transformed into confident, attractive and interesting people. I was surprised at how many from our class have already passed away.
I had a great time; the experience far surpassed my expectations! It'll be nice to carry forward some of the reconnections (or brand new connections) I made this weekend. It might even be time to reevaluate my high school experience a bit.
